1. Influence children’s behavior:

Children absorb everything they see and incorporate that into their lives. Negative examples can be harmful to children’s development and can lead to bad behavior. With time, they can become impossibles to control, just like my sister. She copied all the things that my mom used to do. If my mom said a bad word, she said it as well. She did learn values, but she always says if others talk like that, she is doing it too. When kids reach a certain age, they start to understand what’s going on, some of them ignore their decision-making just like I did, but others can’t handle being there anymore and may take drastic decisions such as leave their homes. In other cases, teens may get involved in gangs, start using drugs, start stealing, and potentially end up in jail or death.

2. Affects children’s development:

Children learn their social behavior from their parents. If a parent reacts negatively or positively to something, kids will learn to react the same way to others. Treating children with violence can lead them to shut down and even treat other children the same way. They can have difficulties connecting with other children, due to trust or anger issues. They can also develop a poor definition of self-care and values. On the other hand, if parents learn to handle their issues and treat their children with respect, their children have a higher chance of growing up without problems like trusting issues or communicating with others.

3. Affects mental health

Emotions play a big role in everyone’s life. Mostly kids because if they suffer at a younger age, they are more vulnerable to have mental disorders. One of the most common mental disorders is anxiety. Anxiety is normal, but it is not good if it’s a disorder. Anxiety in children can be caused by big events such as bad parenting, violent relationships, and lack of support. This can surely lead to depression, which can also be learned from parents. In addition, mental disorders can affect children for the rest of their lives and usually are passed through generations.

4. Bad relationship with parents

When teenagers argue with their parents, there is a higher understanding of the issues and might end up with solutions. However, verbal and physical fights are extremely hard for children. They might blame themselves for the issues that happen between their parents and be traumatized for years. My sister has always had bad relationships with everyone, even with my mom. That is because all she did was reflecting all the bad things that she observed from our parents. Parents are not perfectly aware of their influence on children, which leads children to reflect on their parents’ actions without them knowing.

5. Child abuse

Child abuse can affect all dominant development, including physical neglect. Physical abuse occurs when children’s bodies are injured as a result of shaking, pulling, hitting, kicking, and other forms of maltreatment. Child abuse is also when someone causes emotional harm to children. “Neglect occurs when a parent or caregiver fails to attend to a child’s basic needs or to protect children from situations where he or she is at risk” (Child abuse). Child abuse includes using violence to educate children or to punish them.

6. External Danger

There is a point where children and teens don’t feel comfortable talking to their parents about certain things and sadly make bad decisions such as leaving their parents. Children may seek help from others, but there is a higher chance that they’ll end up in the worst situations. Some of them may end up kidnapped, in accidents, or even assassinated. The best solution to prevent this is by treating children with respect and support them. That’s the best way to build confidence. Parents building trust with their children improves the chances of children telling their parents the problems they have. That also decreases the chances of them leaving their homes.

7. Causes fear

When parents are confronting each other, all that a child feels is fear. I’ve been there, and a lot of children have. One day my mom was fighting, and all I did was call someone else for help. That was all I could do. I was scared and didn’t know what to do. Parents aren’t fully aware of how their actions may affect their children. What really comes to my mind now is if I will be cognizant of that in the future. I don't want to make the same mistakes parents do. In addition, violent behavior between parents may cause fearful behavior, including nightmares, depression, attempts to run away, and unusual fears.